Frank Love: How to Deal When the Interest Isn’t Mutual

If you haven’t checked out Frank Love, then you’re missing thoughtful commentary on love and relationships by a talented black man. A recent blog that caught our attention was about dealing with unrequited love: How often have you heard (or expressed) sentiments like these: “If he would simply stop and get to know me he [...]

Could You Use A Tech Detox?

Without hesitation my answer is yes.  A tech detox.  Sounds like an anathema to the “always plugged-in,” bloggers, and social media enthusiasts everywhere.  But we’re all in need of a break.  It struck me after reading a great post on a friend’s social media sabbatical.  He talked about missing the richness of real conversation with [...]

Unhealthy Relationship Songs (Surprise, Hip Hop and R&B Don’t Do So Well)

I remember loving Guy’s song in the 1990s, “Piece of My Love.”  My boyfriend at the time used to shake his head in disbelief when I would sing it and suggest that it was our song.  He was like, “you know the song is about a man basically telling one of his side chicks that [...]

Of Miners, Mistresses, and Personal Failings

Like most, I was completely mesmerized by the rescue of the 33 Chilean miners after 70 days underground.  I barely survived a couple of days during Snowmageddon and I had all my creature comforts. But one of the surprising stories resulting from the ordeal was the love triangle between trapped miner Yonni Barrios, his wife [...]

Guest Post: An Important Distinction in Many Successful Relationships

Dialogue from Quentin Tarantino’s Jackie Brown: Louis Gara (Robert DeNiro): You trust Melanie around your business? Ordell Robbie (Samuel L. Jackson): She’s trying to play you against me, huh? Louis: Yeah. Ordell: See, I knew it. You ain’t have to say nothing, I know that [woman]. Louis: I don’t understand why you keep someone around [...]

Friday Reading: Black Women See Fewer Black Men at the Altar

The New York Times writes on new research indicating that black men are increasingly marrying women of other races.  Based on research from Pew Research Center, 1 out of every 5 black men married outside their race in 2008: It is a familiar lament of single African-American women: where are the “good” black men to [...]

black and brown girls speak out: Lies and Honesty

One of the most amazing things about starting blackgirlgrown is “virtually” meeting lots of black and brown girls on the web with similar callings, but all with a unique voice. Here are a few recent posts that caught my eye: The Savvy Sista gives an honest perspective of what it is to be a single [...]

In Single Black Women News: Nightline Program Airs Tonight

It seems as if news and commentary about the plight of the single black professional woman is the topic du jour.  For your viewing (dis)pleasure, Nightline will air its “Why can’t a successful Black woman find a man?” program this evening.  The panel includes Sherri Shepherd and Jacque Reid against author Jimi Izrael (The Denzel Principle) [...]

All The Single Ladies!

Sometimes the single life doesn’t feel like a Beyonce video.  And as we learned from Race Talk’s Angela Stanley, it ain’t cheap either.  Shoveling duty over the last two weeks has also put me in the “yeah, I’m independent, but I could still use some help!” mood.  There is still snow on the ground but [...]

Black Men and Marriage

In case you missed it, Yolanda Young wrote an opinion piece in the USA Today on the much talked about issue of single black women, and asks, “what about the men?” As a single, African-American woman, I shrug each time a new pessimistic report comes out highlighting the dismal state of affairs for black women [...]

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