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Comment on Why Precious is Important (Movie Review) by tmass

tmass — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:05:48 +0000

I thought this was a very accurate review and synopsis of a truly profound movie. As a black man, I often find it depressing that Hollywood constantly portrays African Americans in this light. Of course, I do find it refreshing that the truth is told without fear of consequences. It was remarkable that a theme that existed in Alice Walker's Color Purple still plagues us to this day. Incest, ignorance, drugs, and emotional abuse is as much apart of our legacy as slavery. I believe that the book had more opportunity to portray Mo'nique's character Mary as a woman who had grown bitter with life and saw her daughter as an easy target. It also showed how Precious escaped from her reality by investing in the friendships of other women and the recesses of her imagination.

Precious was important because it told the truth. The truth is that although we've come a long way, we have a long way to go. It also is a constant reminder that we must not be afraid to look within ourselves to find the cause of our continual struggle. This was a great movie that boldly told a message that we need to hear:

The black community needs to take credit for the legacy that it is leaving itself. Our children or more than our future, they are the only ones that will rightfully judge and live in the wake of our past.

Good job moviegirl

Comment on Is it Okay to Pray? by Tanya

Tanya — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 17:53:29 +0000

I would feel strange about it. I'm a Latina Jew, and most people who know I'm Latina never even think I could be Jewish, so when it comes to conversations or situations regarding prayer, I'm assumed to be of a Christian faith. There is so much talk about how unless the organization is faith-based, religion should be kept out of the work environment, simply because it's a very passionate subject for those who practice as well as those who don't, that it seems quite out of place to have a group-led prayer. I wouldn't object to a moment of silence, because I personally find it centering to concentrate at least a little bit of energy toward faith at some point during the day. And a moment of silence would be just as appropriate for someone who might be agnostic or atheist, since they could also concentrate on their own “moment.”

What an interesting occurrence though, I'm curious like the other poster (matthewdlyons) as to what brought this about.

Comment on Is it Okay to Pray? by matthewdlyons

matthewdlyons — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:10:01 +0000

I don't know if I would have been offended, necessarily, but I think it depends on the organization. If it's a faith-based organization, saying a prayer wouldn't seem that unusual. Otherwise, I think it should not be invoked. It's quite presumptuous to assume that everyone in the group want to prayer. It potentially sets up a situation where one or more could feel ostracized if they opted out.

I get the impression that this organization is not faith-based, hence your surprise. May I ask what was the impetus for the prayer?

Comment on Top Ten Things I Wish I Had Thought About Before 40 by Chamene

Chamene — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:56:11 +0000

Nicole, you are strides ahead of those who have not yet realized the power behind recognizing our imperfections and applauding our growth. Hopefully, your words will serve as encouragement for all who read them. Thank you for sharing.

Comment on Laid Off? Leave Gracefully, Not in a Blaze of Glory by Sital Bhujal

Sital Bhujal — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 07:33:17 +0000

“The recession or its remnants are going to be with us for many years as far as job creation is concerned." Many employers lost their job due to economic slowdown but recession didn't affect “Education and Healthcare” field. And these two fields look very relevant to women. So we can give stress to make career in these two fields to overcome this recession. I came to known one job portal which is totally dedicated to female job seekers http://naukriforwomen.com According to me it's a good step towards women empowerment......

Comment on Unwritten Rules for Women in the Workplace by Sital Bhujal

Sital Bhujal — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 07:26:35 +0000

As today we known women are equal with men. But is it true in every case? I don’t agree with this. Because still women are back in men dominated world. During recession many female employers lost their job. After pregnancy it is very difficult for women to get a suitable job. As we known women can do anything as men can, but why this partiality is going on till? We can develop our society and community only when each woman is educated and self independent about their career. I came to known, one job portal http://naukriforwomen.com that brought a revolution towards women empowerment. We hope it will live our expectation.

Comment on All The Single Ladies! by Ms. Eye

Ms. Eye — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 22:59:45 +0000

Yes, you can do all those things, but remember to date successful men and alot of them. It makes life easier esp if you are single with no kids.

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Comment on Black Men and Marriage by matthewdlyons

matthewdlyons — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:14:22 +0000

Good question. I suspect the focus is on women because, whether real or imagined, marriage is viewed – stereotypically – as something women dream about entering versus something to which men surrender.

I do wonder if only asking Morehouse and Harvard educated brothers is the best or more common representative sample of available black men. I'd be interested to hear what the community college graduate who is the manager of Foot Locker, or a postal carrier, has to say about why he's not married. If anything, asking reinforces that a lot of us, both men and women, look in the same ole' places and circles for mates expecting a different result. We know that definition of insanity, right?

Comment on Is This What Passes For Love These Days? by Ms. Eye

Ms. Eye — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 05:36:48 +0000

Adults raised on the video/xbox/BET/MTV diet behave that way. Our future is so bleak if these kids dont grow up and own their lives.