June Happiness Project – Order (Mom, Are You Listening?)
This month’s focus is on ORDER. I am a natural creature of habit and order is important to me. So I can easily identify on how order in one’s life contributes to a sense of well-being and cultivates happiness.
When I think order, I immediately think of clutter. My mother has a habit of holding on to EVERYTHING. And oftentimes I wonder if she wouldn’t be a good candidate for Hoarders. I know my anxiety level rises when I return home to visit. I am surrounded by so many THINGS that aren’t in their place.
But does it bother my mother? I think so. Clutter and lack of order is a weight on your neck. If you’ve completed most things on your “to-do” list, getting rid of clutter remains and I would suggest that it contributes to a feeling of defeat!
Gretchen Rubin, in unveiling the theme for June, suggests GETTING RID OF STUFF as you get organized. Are you listening mom?
When you’re facing a desk swamped in papers, or a closet bursting with clothes, or counter-tops littered with piles of random objects, don’t say to yourself, “I need to get organized.” Your first instinct should be to get rid of stuff. If you don’t keep it, you don’t have to organize it.
A huge amount of clutter is the result of keeping things you don’t use. “Well, I don’t have that problem,” you might think. “Why would I bother to keep something I don’t use?” But it’s easier than you think for this stuff to accumulate.
In fact, there are a surprising number of reasons to hang on to something you don’t use. Maybe you used this object in the past, and it has sentimental value – your ten-year-old’s old sippy cup. Maybe you wish you used this object, even though you never do – a set of hand-weights. Maybe you want to pretend you live a life where this object would be useful – linen cocktail napkins. Maybe you’ve never used this thing, and you feel guilty about having wasted the money buying it – a bottle of decoupage glue. (All items that I held onto for years, without using, by the way.)
It can be painful to admit that you aren’t going to use certain possessions, but all that junk just gets in your way. Be honest with yourself.
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