Wednesday, September 3, 2014

What If There Is Nothing Wrong With You?

Wow.  We spend so much time asking ourselves what is wrong with us (women especially) that we rarely think about the novel concept that nothing is wrong.

Hilary Rubin posits this question over at The Huffington Post:

I was sitting listening to a recording about practicing being in the moment from my coach Marie Foleo when I heard these words, “what if there is nothing wrong with you”. Now I have been teaching this for over seven years because I heard these words over 10 years ago in a yoga class that totally woke me up from a deep sleep of ignorance of what really is. My students just like I did shift in ways they never thought possible. The love of self emerges and life gets a bit easier. The mind is great because it tells us our name, where we have to be and gets us home at the end of the day. Our mind is so funny, tricky and complex that it fools us into thinking it knows what we need to be happy which is to start fixing what is wrong.

I couldn’t even get past this first paragraph to read the full blog article before I was contemplating the idea in my own mind. 

Don’t get me wrong, the concept is not new to me, though it is usually wrapped in flowery language on self-esteem or “we’re all special” kumbaya exercises in workplace diversity seminars.

But it hadn’t been said quite this clearly as to slice through the clutter of my mind and own self-doubts.  Yet it serves as an urgent reminder in this season of my life.

Questions that immediately came to mind:

What if there is nothing wrong with being a size 12 as long as I’m fit and healthy? 

What if there was nothing wrong with not being shrewd and calculating in the workplace?

What if there was nothing wrong with embracing your vulnerabilities and needing help?

Hilary goes on to say:

But what if there is really nothing wrong with you? That’s a big question and may pull the rug out from under your personal programming or story you are telling yourself. Or even better the voice in your head that sounds just like you — what is it telling you?

What if there is nothing wrong with you?  And how would that one question change your life?

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  • http://www.matthewdlyons.com/ matthewdlyons

    There's nothing wrong with being introspective, but far too many people spend most of their time focusing on their weaknesses (whether real or perceived) instead of their strengths. Knowing your strengths can help you improve in weaker areas, but it doesn't work the other way around. My coach directed me to Tom Rath's book, Strengths Finder. It really helped me think about how much time and energy I spent trying to improve weak areas instead of maxing out in areas where I'm strong. It's not suggesting you ignore your weaknesses, but, instead, not let them lead you.

  • http://www.matthewdlyons.com/ matthewdlyons

    There's nothing wrong with being introspective, but far too many people spend most of their time focusing on their weaknesses (whether real or perceived) instead of their strengths. Knowing your strengths can help you improve in weaker areas, but it doesn't work the other way around. My coach directed me to Tom Rath's book, Strengths Finder. It really helped me think about how much time and energy I spent trying to improve weak areas instead of maxing out in areas where I'm strong. It's not suggesting you ignore your weaknesses, but, instead, not let them lead you.