Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Black Men and Marriage

February 9, 2010 by  
Filed under relationships

In case you missed it, Yolanda Young wrote an opinion piece in the USA Today on the much talked about issue of single black women, and asks, “what about the men?”

As a single, African-American woman, I shrug each time a new pessimistic report comes out highlighting the dismal state of affairs for black women desiring marriage. The latest incarnation was an ABC Nightline segment in December, in which a reporter ominously announced that “42% of black women have never been married. That’s double the number of never-married white women.”

What’s wrong with single, black women, you ask? Actually, other than marriage, we’re doing just fine in terms of education, career and earning power. But why doesn’t anyone ever ask about the dismal state of marriage for black males? According to the 2000 Census, 41.6% of black men have never been married. But while the percentages of unmarried black males and females are similar, the reasons are not.  Read the entire column.

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    Good question. I suspect the focus is on women because, whether real or imagined, marriage is viewed – stereotypically – as something women dream about entering versus something to which men surrender.

    I do wonder if only asking Morehouse and Harvard educated brothers is the best or more common representative sample of available black men. I'd be interested to hear what the community college graduate who is the manager of Foot Locker, or a postal carrier, has to say about why he's not married. If anything, asking reinforces that a lot of us, both men and women, look in the same ole' places and circles for mates expecting a different result. We know that definition of insanity, right?

  • http://www.matthewdlyons.com/ matthewdlyons

    Good question. I suspect the focus is on women because, whether real or imagined, marriage is viewed – stereotypically – as something women dream about entering versus something to which men surrender.

    I do wonder if only asking Morehouse and Harvard educated brothers is the best or more common representative sample of available black men. I'd be interested to hear what the community college graduate who is the manager of Foot Locker, or a postal carrier, has to say about why he's not married. If anything, asking reinforces that a lot of us, both men and women, look in the same ole' places and circles for mates expecting a different result. We know that definition of insanity, right?